The dreaded noisy neighbor. No matter how thick the walls are, some people manage to create enough ruckus to get through to you. It’s tempting to blast off on social media or to file a complaint to the main office. Before you do, there are a few things you should try first. Handling issues at home can be a delicate matter. The last thing you want is an awkward living situation.
Pick Your Battles
First, decipher what kind of noise is irritating you. Can you hear a dog barking in the middle of the day, or does loud music boom constantly? Is it a couple fighting, or is it a child crying? Determine if the noise is something that needs to be addressed and choose your battles wisely. New parents often times struggle to find a sleeping pattern for the newborn. Know, that the child won’t be in this phase forever, and have some patience with it. On the other hand, if it’s a screaming match between two people, then it’s time to talk. Loud music, late night parties, and booming video games are all things that need to be addressed as well.
If there’s only one or two nights out of the month that this happens, it may be best to leave it alone. But if it causes constant interruptions to your life, then you have some skin in the game.
Meet them in person
Before you lose your cool, find out who they are. Maybe there is a life circumstance that you are unaware of that makes them unknowingly noisy neighbors. Once you meet them, you’ll have a better understanding for what they might be dealing with. You’ll have more patience and consideration when you go to speak to them about the issue. By knowing your neighbor, you have a better idea of how to confront the issue at hand. Find common ground and try to meet them where they are at.
Go to them first when there is an issue
Before you go marching over to the Leasing Office, knock on their door. It can be scary to confront someone face-to-face, but generally, you’ll always have a better resolution. Most of the time, people don’t want to be a nuisance to others. They want to get along with the people around them. They simply may not be aware of the issue. If you storm off to the Leasing Office to complain, it can create a hostile feeling towards you and other neighbors.
If the noise doesn’t change after speaking with them one-on-one, then you can get the Leasing Office involved. Notify the proper channels and let them know about how it’s affecting you and how you’ve tried to resolve it peacefully. Once you do, understand that the landlord is now handling it, and you should take a backseat to the situation.
Stay calm and don’t become offended
Whatever happens, always maintain your composure. A quick way to look like an unstable jerk is to lose your cool. Stand your ground but have an heir of maturity about you. The landlord will take your concern more seriously if you aren’t overly emotional about the situation. Tensions can run high, especially when you live in close proximity to you.
Communication is key. Let them know what is going on with your end, so you can try to come to a peaceful solution. If all else fails, find noise cancelling devices to help you sleep, and give you peace during the day. If you are ever unsure, then stick to the Golden Rule: Treat your neighbor how you would want to be treated—even when dealing with tough situations.